Breast Cancer Awareness – My Story

Keep calm get a mammogram

When I turned 40 a year and a half ago, my mom said, “Don’t forget to schedule your mammogram.  You’re 40 now.  You need to have one.”

What?  What was I hearing?  A mammogram?  Wasn’t that something that old(er) women had done?  Surely, as a 40 year-old woman, I was definitely too young to need one of those, right?  Nope.  (Why did I ever doubt my mom?)

I waited and waited.  You know…I was busy.  I’ll get around to it, I told myself.

As my 41st birthday neared, my mom urged me – again – to go and get a mammogram.  Reluctantly I made an appointment to have it while I was still 40.  Otherwise, as she pointed out, I would be two mammograms behind when I turned 41.

The procedure itself was relatively painless and was over in no time.  During the procedure, the technician informed me that because I had no baseline for comparison, I shouldn’t be surprised if I get a callback for a second test.  Ok, I thought.

A week later, I received a letter in the mail that mentioned something suspicious was detected and that I needed to return for further testing.  This news wasn’t really what I had expected when I was told not to be surprised if I needed to return for further testing.  I imagined going back because they couldn’t see something clearly, not because something looked suspicious.  The next step was an ultrasound.

Fast forward a few weeks…

The ultrasound confirmed that there was indeed a clearly defined mass (it looked like a chewed piece of bubble gum to me) and that a biopsy was the next step to determine if it was cancerous.  Biopsy??  This was getting more serious.  I left my appointment, went to my car, called my husband at work and as soon as I heard his voice, I burst into tears.  (No one ever said my timing or delivery was always perfect.)  He was able to understand my words through muffled tears and his words soothed me enough to pull myself together.  Then I began texting and emailing my family and friends to go to God on my behalf and pray for a benign tumor.

Fast forward a few weeks…

After the biopsy, four days passed before I received a phone call with the results.  A phone call that could’ve changed my life forever.  I’m a pretty optimistic person but honestly, God heard from me a lot that week!  And boy – my poor husband.  He is normally very even-keeled but he, too, was also pretty concerned.  He tried to be strong for both of us.  I love him so much.  (The funny thing is that before he left for work on the morning I received the phone call, he prayed a prayer over me like he’s never done before.  It left me speechless!  God used him to calm my nerves that morning.)

I was relieved when the call came in and I found out the test came back negative.  I was cancer-free!  Praise God!  My mom, who was in the car with me when I got the call, started screaming and praising God right then and there!  (I’ll never forget that moment EVER!)  I didn’t hear much after, “Kathie, I have good news for you”, but I was so relieved that God had answered my prayers.

Because of the size and location of the tumor, my doctor recommended that I have the tumor removed, but the ultimate decision was mine to make.  After doing some research, I decided to have the tumor removed after our church’s VBS wrapped up.

The morning of my surgery, I felt good and confident, ready to put this ordeal behind me.  With my husband and children by my side, we arrived at the hospital, checked in and waited…waiting is so hard, isn’t it?

Have you ever been in a place of anticipation and waiting?

My surgery went well, with no complications, although no one told me about the horrible nausea that followed.  The day after surgery was also tougher than I expected.  I was in an incredible amount of pain, had a sore throat (I was intubated prior to surgery), nausea and sleepiness.  Thankfully, I was able to take a week to just recover – it took 7 full days for me to begin to feel like myself again.

Why did I share my story?

I share my story because God answered my prayers!  I am so thankful for insurance, supportive family and friends and knowledgeable doctors and medical personnel.

I share this story because God often uses unexpected situations to draw us – and those around us – closer to him.  I had so many people praying for me, texting me encouraging words and sharing their stories of going through a similar experience.  We grew closer to God and each other through that scary time.

I share my story because two friends who had put off their own mammograms went to have theirs done.  If my story could help one person, yay!

I share my story because rest did my body a lot of good.  I was really a non-functioning member of society for the days following my surgery.  All I could do was take pain meds and sleep.  And that was alright with me.

I share my story because oftentimes, we don’t listen as intently about issues that haven’t affected us or someone we care about.  I have learned so much through this process and want to help others learn, too.

Needless to say, this year I’m paying more attention to stories about breast cancer awareness.  Last week on the Today Show, I saw a segment that the American Cancer Society is now recommending mammograms start for women at age 45, not age 40.  (I have no family history of breast cancer, but had I waited, my story could’ve ended very differently.)

I encourage you to take care of yourself, go get a mammogram and/or encourage someone you love to get theirs.  You have too much to live for to skip it!

My Unintentional Prayer Posture

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During my prayer time the other day, the Holy Spirit nudged me in a way that shocked me a bit.  I had just spent a few minutes praying before realizing that my posture was just wrong. It was unintentional but wrong nonetheless.  What was my posture?  My arms were crossed tightly over my chest.

I know enough to know what this posture conveys most of the time.  Body language experts will tell you that arms crossed tightly over your chest signals defensiveness and resistance.

In retrospect, I honestly don’t think that I was either defensive or resistant, but only God knows the true depth of my heart that day.  Maybe deep down, I was.  Maybe I was afraid to go to my Heavenly Father with the longings of my heart.  I don’t know.

What I do know is that when I recognized my posture, I changed it right away.  Instead of tightly crossed arms, I held my hands up and open, posturing myself to receive from the God who created me, loves me and delights in me.

Psalm 134:2 (ESV)

“…Lift up your hands to the holy place and bless the LORD!”

Psalm 5:3 (NLT)

“Listen to my voice in the morning, LORD.  Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly.”

Here is a brief video from John Maxwell that speaks to POSTURE.  Position yourself to win – and receive!

http://johnmaxwellteam.com/2015-posture?i=nCws

What are you trusting God for today?  Are you postured in a position to receive or are you resistant to what God has for you?

Get Creative with 8 KidMin Learning/Activity Stations

Learning & Activity Stations

A few months ago, I wanted to create a different kind of Sunday morning learning experience for our elementary students. This was because our weekly curriculum’s lesson for a that particular week missed the mark in several areas, prompting this change:

1. All of the activities relied primarily on question and answer-style responses.

2. The curriculum assumed that all of the children who attended were familiar with navigating the Bible (which, on that particular Sunday, just wasn’t the case).  In my opinion, this would make our non-churched or less Bible-literate children feel very uncomfortable (or gasp – even bored).

So…I brainstormed how to solve this issue and landed on having the children rotate through activity stations after our large group worship and Bible story time.  We offered 3 stations for our Sunday morning experience:

Arrival Time

  • Coloring & Activity Pages (I printed off coloring and activity pages from our curriculum as well as word searches that I found online)
  • Active Games

Post-Large Group Time

  • Active Games
  • Snack (we don’t usually serve snacks in our elementary area, so this was a special treat)
  • Object Lesson & Worship Response

Every time we’ve changed up the format in this way, it’s been a big hit.  Sometimes, we have our leaders stationed at one area for the entire morning (so they only have to really focus on preparing for one thing).  Other times, we have them rotate through with their group.  Either way, it works and the kids love it.

If you’re looking for ways to get the kids learning in a different way, don’t be afraid to give learning/activity stations a try.  Here are some suggestions to get you started:

Games

I suggest doing a mix of high-energy and low-energy options that correspond to the day’s lesson.  Use a high-energy option if your other stations are more reflective or slower paced; use a low-energy option if your morning will include a lot of stimulating elements.  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired games here.

Arts and Crafts

Kids love being creative!  Set out a variety of art supplies and let the children express their individuality.  Items such as paints, modeling clay, construction paper, beads, pipe cleaners, craft sticks and markers are things you should keep on hand for this.  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired crafts here.

Worship Response/Quiet Reflection

Sometimes kids just need a place to sit and allow the Holy Spirit to speak to them.  Create this atmosphere by having soft lighting, gentle music and flameless candles.  Provide journals or index cards for the kids to jot down prayer requests or provide another prayer station option.  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired prayer ideas here.

Snacks

What child doesn’t love a snack?  What child wouldn’t love a snack that went along with a Bible story?  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired snack ideas here.

Missions/Service

How can you offer kids a chance to think outside of the church walls?  Can you invite a missionary in to share?  Is there a local mission you can partner with?  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired outreach ideas here.

Coloring/Activity Pages

Our younger children (2nd grade and younger) love to color, while our older children (3rd-5th grade) enjoy crossword puzzles, word searches, word scrambles and brain teasers.  When we use these, they always correspond to the day’s lesson.  What I love about this station is that it provides a quieter spot for children who need that.

Drama (Skits, Puppets, Pantomime)

I love the chance for children to express themselves in a creative way!  Provide puppets, props and skits and let children act out the bible story or a real-life situation.  Or – provide supplies for the children to create their own puppets, props and skits.  You’ll not only see their creative side but you’ll also see their personalities shine!

Object Lessons

Sometimes, there is no better way to bring home a point than doing an object lesson.  On the Sunday referenced above, we used one of my favorite object lessons.  The children were mesmerized.  There are great options available that would complement many Bible stories.  Check out my favorite Pinterest-inspired object lessons here.

Keep the conversation going!  What learning/activity stations would you add to the list?

{Throwback Thursday}: 120-Day Prayer Challenge

Updated 1/15/15: Originally published in August 2012, this post was written during a time when our church was doing a 120-day prayer campaign.  While the campaign has passed, committing to making prayer more of a focus is always relevant.  Many of my friends have chosen a specific word for the year; why not pray that word back to God daily?  Blessings, friends!

Prayer

Our church recently launched a 120-day prayer initiative, designed to help us commit to a more focused, fervent prayer life.  While we have launched other initiatives this past year, this is one that has really pulled at my heartstrings.  Allow me to tell you why.

I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase, “What’s in the well comes up in the bucket.”  As church leaders, we pour our lives into our the busyness of our ministries and the many, many details that come along with the job.  Sometimes, in our efforts to serve the Lord, we can lose sight of our own walk with the Lord.  We can push our own time with the Lord to the side to check our messages, search for that perfect craft, shop for supplies, attend countless meetings, etc.  But that is extremely dangerous.  Over time, without intentional care and nurturing, our spiritual wells end up empty.

Have you ever felt empty while serving?  I sure have.  Thankfully, I am now able to recognize when I need to take steps to get things back on track.  This 120-day prayer couldn’t have come at a better time for me.

Our church provided ideas and resources for this campaign but God gave me a personal assignment.  For the next 120 days, I will pray one word back to God each day.  I will find a scripture that corresponds with that word and pray that back to God, too.  Then I will identify ways that I need to trust God in that area.  I am keeping these notes on index cards secured by a ring binder clip so that it is portable and easily accessible.

Let me share a synopsis of Day 1.  Day 1’s word was “PEACE”.  I meditated on Philippians 4:6-7, NLT:  “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.  Tell God what you need and thank him for all that he has done.  Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand.  His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”  I jotted down specific ways that I needed God’s peace in my life.

I am excited about what lies ahead in the next 120 days and how God will transform my life as a result.  I’ll keep you posted!

What about you?  Tell me how you keep your well from drying out!