Dealing with Disappointment in Ministry

Poor attendance for an event that you’ve poured hours into.  Feeling unappreciated.  Being let down.  Broken promises.  Being overlooked.  Feeling stuck.  Not getting your budget increased.  Not having a budget.  Lack of volunteers.  Lack of committed volunteers.  Have you ever dealt with any of these scenarios in your ministry?

Earlier this week, I lamented about a recent disappointment.  The truth is disappointment is a very human emotion, even for leaders.  Even for ministry leaders.  Please hear me:  I am not saying that God isn’t present in the midst of our disappointments.  And in no way am I talking about someone with a constant, complaining spirit.  What I’m talking about is a real human emotion that all of us have felt at one time or another.  Just because we are church leaders doesn’t mean that we don’t feel this very real emotion.

What ministry leaders need to realize is that it’s okay to feel disappointed.  People fail us; we fail people.  While we strive to offer the very best ministry that we can, we will experience shortcomings and unmet expectations.  And that’s okay.

What we have to fight against is believing the lies from the enemy when we allow disappointment to linger.  When we allow Satan’s lies to become truths in our heads, that is where the problems begin.  He will have us believe that we’re worthless; that what we’re doing is pointless; that we’ll never attain the dreams that we have; that God can’t use us; that we’re really not good at what we do because if we were, we’d have “this” or be “that”.

My dear friend, I want you to know that the enemy (Satan) uses those moments for our detriment but God wants to use them for our benefit.  The Bible says, “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy.  My (Jesus’) purpose is to give life in all its fullness.” ( John 10:10)

If you are feeling discouraged today about things that aren’t going right in your ministry, talk to God about how you feel.  Ask Him to help you rebuke the lies of the enemy and walk in the confidence that He has called you.  Trust that He will equip you to do the work He has planned for you.  The road won’t always be easy and won’t always be filled with high moments, but the highs as well as the lows help you to be the leader that God intends you to be.

Walk in confidence knowing that “God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on that day when Christ Jesus comes back again.” (Philippians 1:6)  And that’s a promise!

How do you deal with disappointments in ministry?

What I Learned From NOT Attending the KidMin Conference

Many of my ministry colleagues are returning home today after five days in Chicago for Group’s KidMin 2012 Conference.  I was heartbroken that I had to cancel my registration at the last-minute, as I thoroughly enjoyed attending last year.

As I reflect on the “conference that wasn’t”, my mind was flooded with things that I learned as a result of NOT attending the conference.  Here’s the shortlist:

  1. Pouting and sulking are for toddlers and preschoolers, not a grown woman.
  2. Disappointment is a part of life.  It just is.
  3. Being green with envy is NOT a good look for me.
  4. Limiting my time on social media during the conference was a good thing.  (Refer back to #3.)
  5. Getting a nasty head cold the day before I was scheduled to leave for the conference was no accident.  I spent much of the weekend in bed with a box of Kleenex and hot tea.  God knew that I’d much rather be at home sick than in a beautiful hotel with thousands of KidMin leaders enjoying the conference without me.  And–I can be a wee bit grumpy when I’m sick. 🙂
  6. Interstate love is palpable.  A few of my ministry colleagues actually said that they missed me being there!  That makes a girl feel so special!

The bottom line is that we all have disappointments.  It’s how we deal with them that show what we’re made of.  And I was reminded just how tough I am.  Besides..if God wills, there’s always next year!

Don’t forget to smile!

Sometimes, children and families who walk through the doors of our church walk in carrying heavy burdens.  Marriage issues, family dynamics, and financial pressures can take a toll on those we serve each week.  While we cannot always lift those burdens, there is one very easy way that we can bring them a little joy:  SMILE!

Genesis 33 tells the story of Jacob and Esau reconciling after Jacob stole Esau’s birthright (see Genesis 27).  Upon their meeting, Jacob says to his brother, “..what a relief it is to see your friendly smile.  It is like seeing the smile of God!” (Genesis 33:10)

Someone might see God through your smile this week.  So go ahead and SMILE!

Dream Big!

Years ago, I was told that I dream too big.  After the initial shock, I began to wonder:  Is there such a thing?  What if I dreamt too small–or not at all?  Would I have had the experiences of being awed by what only God could do?  I am not saying that a person should live in a fantasy world.  But I do believe that dreams help us not stay in a comfortable place, confined by thinking that keeps us in a box.  God has a plan and purpose for us; dreams remind us that with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).  Go ahead–dream big!
“Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish more than we might ask or think.”  Ephesians 3:20, NLT
So what are you dreaming about?  What’s stopping you from dreaming big?